FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON STARTS WITH BEING THE RIGHT PERSON

Wondering why you can't find the right friends or partner starts with YOU.  Have you heard the saying you can't be happy with someone unless you are happy with yourself? The sayings and phrases we now see for inspiration seem nice when reading them, but it stops there if there is no behavior reflecting it. If you truly are looking for a change in the way your relationships have been going, here are some ideas:

1. Always treat the other person with respect-being in a relationship is NOT ownership. Like a bird, we all want to be free. Go outside and watch a bird fly. If there are any restraints on it's wings it can't fly to the path it was meant to go.  If you are seeing your friends or partner go down a path that you believe is more harmful than beneficial encourage them to see a better way through your own behavior, not telling them what to do. Invite them to enjoy quality time with you and find simplicity in the little things. Pray for them daily. PHILIPPIANS 2:3. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself.

2. Words of Affirmation-We all like to hear good things about ourselves. Same goes for the people you love and spend time with. Simple notes or telling them about the inner qualities you appreciate  (compliments about a person's inner qualities have more meaning than physical) will make their day brighter. I challenge you to try this for one week.  Doing this, especially, to the people who you have had conflict with will change your life...and theirs.
JOHN 17:17. Sanctify them through thy truth; thy word is truth.

3. Don't say things you can't take back-This is a difficult one and where I have fallen many times before. In a moment of anger, sometimes people want to hurt the other or be right. It is sometimes hard to admit our faults; but through this is where we find our inner peace. Once the dust settles from a disagreement or argument we have time to reflect. It is easier to clean up a mess from one person instead of two or more. You are responsible for yourself and the things you say. It is not an eye for an eye, if it were where does that get you?  Let's say you are right (in your opinion), think about it...so what.  PROVERBS 17:9. Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.

SIDE NOTE: the ideas and thoughts in this post are based on opinion along with Bible reflection, research, a degree in psychology, and experience. The post does not reflect how I am 100% of the time, but who I strive to be.

All the Best,
Mandy